Driveroneuk:
Bored now …its getting personal.OP asks a reasonable Q. Initiatlly some reasonable answers, then a troll accusation, now a uk v expat fight.
Suggest take that to a new thread.
+1…
Get this thread back on topic…
lizard:
tramping is all I know.
the work is very varied.
the money is good.
the wife loves me being away.
the kids love seeing me at the weekend.
and the 1 fundamental thing you’ve got to remember at the weekend is.
the ■■■ is great and on a plate.
well this is the post above that I posted on the 15 jan and since then my marriage has fell apart around me and I didnt even see it coming. still in discussions with her and am currently on way towards home to try and salvage, but ive got a feeling it ain’t going to make much difference.
That’s not good. Hope you can sorry your differences out for the kids sake.
happysack:
That’s not good. Hope you can sorry your differences out for the kids sake.
I wished I could of but shes made her mind up and she wont be budged so im now looking for diggs.
got 4 kids to think about aswell
lizard:
lizard:
tramping is all I know.
the work is very varied.
the money is good.
the wife loves me being away.
the kids love seeing me at the weekend.
and the 1 fundamental thing you’ve got to remember at the weekend is.
the ■■■ is great and on a plate.well this is the post above that I posted on the 15 jan and since then my marriage has fell apart around me and I didnt even see it coming. still in discussions with her and am currently on way towards home to try and salvage, but ive got a feeling it ain’t going to make much difference.
Not good, but in keeping with the direction of this thread, how much of it has to do with you being out on the road all week 
Surely if the tramping was her main issue you would be getting the ‘it’s me or the job’ ultimatum before you got the bin liners on the drive treatment 
Very true Mark if anything if there is problems in your relationship been away can prolong it as you don’t see each other much by the time you got the family stuff done your gone if your home everyday you are more likely to grate on each other.
newmercman:
lizard:
lizard:
tramping is all I know.
the work is very varied.
the money is good.
the wife loves me being away.
the kids love seeing me at the weekend.
and the 1 fundamental thing you’ve got to remember at the weekend is.
the ■■■ is great and on a plate.well this is the post above that I posted on the 15 jan and since then my marriage has fell apart around me and I didnt even see it coming. still in discussions with her and am currently on way towards home to try and salvage, but ive got a feeling it ain’t going to make much difference.
Not good, but in keeping with the direction of this thread, how much of it has to do with you being out on the road all week
Surely if the tramping was her main issue you would be getting the ‘it’s me or the job’ ultimatum before you got the bin liners on the drive treatment
she says that me being away has put a wedge between us cos im never there for her and the kids. now ive told her on several occasions that I will come off the road to spend time with them and she has always said that it wont last between us if im at home all the time. so I have lost either way.
I love her to peices and im not scared to say as a grown man that ive pretty much cried for the last 3 days.
lizard:
newmercman:
lizard:
lizard:
tramping is all I know.
the work is very varied.
the money is good.
the wife loves me being away.
the kids love seeing me at the weekend.
and the 1 fundamental thing you’ve got to remember at the weekend is.
the ■■■ is great and on a plate.well this is the post above that I posted on the 15 jan and since then my marriage has fell apart around me and I didnt even see it coming. still in discussions with her and am currently on way towards home to try and salvage, but ive got a feeling it ain’t going to make much difference.
Not good, but in keeping with the direction of this thread, how much of it has to do with you being out on the road all week
Surely if the tramping was her main issue you would be getting the ‘it’s me or the job’ ultimatum before you got the bin liners on the drive treatment
she says that me being away has put a wedge between us cos im never there for her and the kids. now ive told her on several occasions that I will come off the road to spend time with them and she has always said that it wont last between us if im at home all the time. so I have lost either way.
I love her to peices and im not scared to say as a grown man that ive pretty much cried for the last 3 days.
Feel gutted for you, honestly do, i know that feeling of a relationship falling apart around you knowing you cant do anything about it.
sorry to hear things not going to good lizard hope you can sort things out
i did the coming off the road thing to try sort things out
was married 24yrs did tramping for 16yrs away for up to 6 weeks at a time sometimes
made no difference we lasted nearly 2yrs after me coming off the road i hated every minute of being at home all the time and she coudnt cope with me being there all the time as she had her own routine after so many years , it just didnt work for either of us
dont get me wrong it hurts like hell when you split up after so many years i went through a bad patch but im back in the job now ( tramping ) and loving every minute of it
i got into another relationship thought cracked it with this one her dad was a driver she knows what its like everything fine 2 and a half years later we split started moaning that we never see eachother
simple answer … bye love aint coming off the road again for no one
drivers wives are a special breed
Just to add to what the others have said, sorry to hear that Lizard, I’ve been through it myself so I know exactly what it’s like. As you say though, you offered to come off the road and your wife said that it wouldn’t help at all so it’s nothing you have done. It just seems to me that a woman gets to about 40 and a little bell goes off in her head and she just has to leave her husband.
It will get better with time, looking back on it I should have left her years before we split, the girl I’m with now is just nicer and more attractive in every way possible and I know my ex regards her decision as the biggest mistake she’s ever made.
I’m sure you don’t need telling this but the kids’ welfare and well-being comes first, stick in there buddy, we’re all in your corner.
truc123:
just been offered a job tramping but my girlfreind says its a single mans job and should turn it downwhen i told her theres loads of married men doing it she said right bet there are
This all depends on many factors, how long have you been together? How serious is the relationship? How old are you both? Etc etc.
She must of known about your job when you both got together. If you’re young and you haven’t been together for a while then I would be asking serious questions about trust issues and controlling issues. If its something you really want to do then do it, you will only regret it later in life.
If you’re old and have been together for a while then maybe do it for a month to rebalance the bank?.
At the end of the day you have to do what’s best for you and your situation. Trouble is more often than not people make decisions like this either wearing blinkers or rose tinted specs. Try and take a step back and look at the bigger picture.
like harry says … a woman gets to about 40 and a little bell goes off in her head and she just has to leave her husband , it seems that way its also happened to a few of my mates lately who dont work away from home
pmsl my ex also regards her decision as the biggest mistake she’s ever made and would be back this afternoon if i asked her but that aint gonna happen , time really is a great healer … or was it the freedom to be able to go where i want , do what i want , when i want without hearing her voice lol
also as harry said sure you don’t need telling this but the kids’ welfare and well-being comes first, stick in there buddy, we’re all in your corner … all 3 of my children came back to live with me after a while , 2 still here n lad got his own place now but hes still here every day when im home , they all working now and doing really well , i didnt think it would at the time but it has turned out pretty good
neil46:
And of course what about the Women Trampers.
Dead easy to shag! 
wigan:
drivers wives are a special breed
And understanding! 
especially when the see condoms on the receipt!
It ain’t just drivers that work away on a regular basis loads of different trades do it, when I was 16 I stayed in a caravan in borehamwood doing block paving, what’s the big issue men should do what they have to to provide and women should understand that
Harry Monk:
Just to add to what the others have said, sorry to hear that Lizard, I’ve been through it myself so I know exactly what it’s like. As you say though, you offered to come off the road and your wife said that it wouldn’t help at all so it’s nothing you have done. It just seems to me that a woman gets to about 40 and a little bell goes off in her head and she just has to leave her husband.It will get better with time, looking back on it I should have left her years before we split, the girl I’m with now is just nicer and more attractive in every way possible and I know my ex regards her decision as the biggest mistake she’s ever made.
I’m sure you don’t need telling this but the kids’ welfare and well-being comes first, stick in there buddy, we’re all in your corner.
weve been together 13 years and she was still young. she was catch and a half when I met her cos she was 10 years my junior. she is the prime od her life at the ripe old age of 32 and im over the hill at 42. the worst thing is I had the snip done for her.
Snakes with ■■■■, the lot of 'em!
lizard:
she is the prime od her life at the ripe old age of 32 and im over the hill at 42. the worst thing is I had the snip done for her.
Over the hill at 42? My God thanks so much for making me feel great (not) as a very reluctant bachelor at 54 
Little hope now … in this country.
lizard I do sympathize with your situation. I’ve had my heart broken more than once before.
(many years ago)
However, us here cannot know know if your username connects with your character.
P.S. The snip is (usually) reversible, though not 100% successfully.
Tramping is’nt everyones cup of tea, Im 34 the wife is 38 and ive been tramping on and off for nearly 10 years now. We have 4 children and 2 grandchildren, the oldest child 22 isnt mine but i treat her as my own! the other 3 kids are 9 8 and 6. Now its my choice i tramp and it works rather well, ok im away all week but we make up for it at the weekends, we do alsorts together, also i dont wake them up in the week when i get up early also this works for me cos i get to sleep in longer in the truck, also being away allweek benefits me & the family in our pockets. I earn way more money in a year than one of our day men, with extra loads done over the year & of cause the night out money. BUT like i say it is’nt everyones cup of tea, its how we do it as a family and it works.
lizard:
lizard:
tramping is all I know.
the work is very varied.
the money is good.
the wife loves me being away.
the kids love seeing me at the weekend.
and the 1 fundamental thing you’ve got to remember at the weekend is.
the ■■■ is great and on a plate.well this is the post above that I posted on the 15 jan and since then my marriage has fell apart around me and I didnt even see it coming. still in discussions with her and am currently on way towards home to try and salvage, but ive got a feeling it ain’t going to make much difference.
Mate that is such a sad post I really hope things work out for you