Why dont you get another job? Why dont you go on days? Why dont you want to be at home with me and the kids? Your job means more to you than your family. We need you home. The kids need a dad. Im not a part time wife.
These are just a select few rounds that get fired at me on a daily basis and quite frankly ive had enough. No thank you for sacrificing home time and putting all the hours in god sends for my family to live a comfortable life. She doesn’t complain when she’s spending it
Why do you guys do the job?
Anyway sorry for the rant I needed to blow off some steam [emoji35][emoji35]
I’ve tramped for a lifetime mate,.I’ve enjoyed it and I’ve been with the same woman for over 30 years, and we still get on great.
It works for us,.and always has done,.I was tramping when we met,.and she knew what she was taking on.
However if your Mrs feels that strongly,.jack the ■■■■ thing in …end of.
(The job not the wife btw )
It’s a ■■■■ industry and it certainly ain’t worth losing your wife, kids and family life over…get a job on days.
mark1284:
Well i think im on the verge of divorce.
Why dont you get another job? Why dont you go on days? Why dont you want to be at home with me and the kids? Your job means more to you than your family. We need you home. The kids need a dad. Im not a part time wife.
I’ve known numerous blokes who have gone from tramping onto day work for this very reason and within six months the Missus has left them because they are fed up with them being around all the time.
mark1284:
Well i think im on the verge of divorce.
Why dont you get another job? Why dont you go on days? Why dont you want to be at home with me and the kids? Your job means more to you than your family. We need you home. The kids need a dad. Im not a part time wife.
I’ve known numerous blokes who have gone from tramping onto day work for this very reason and within six months the Missus has left them because they are fed up with them being around all the time.
Mebbys something more deep seated than tramping in those situations I reckon Harry.
Only you can make that decision. We all know blokes who were nagged to death about being away for work (driving, at sea or in the army) and almost all regretted either sticking at it, and not seeing their kids grow up, or jacking it in, and finding out that the missus didnt want them around that much after all…
At least you wont give up a career in the forces. Ask yourself, do YOU want to spend more time with your family? At least with driving, if you give up tramping, and it dont work out, you can get back to tramping over night.
Working on the principle that you’ll never get you leg over again, what is most important, an extra £100 a week in the pot or a present father? Your life, your priorities, is providing more important than presence? If you get divorced you still have to pay, but you’ll definitely not get your leg over again and your kids will definitely suffer.
mark1284:
Well i think im on the verge of divorce.
Why dont you get another job? Why dont you go on days? Why dont you want to be at home with me and the kids? Your job means more to you than your family. We need you home. The kids need a dad. Im not a part time wife.
I’ve known numerous blokes who have gone from tramping onto day work for this very reason and within six months the Missus has left them because they are fed up with them being around all the time.
THIS^^^^^^
Me and my missus both agree we would have split up years ago if i wasn’t away all week, it’s about routine and she hates it when i have a week off and interrupts it
robroy:
However if your Mrs feels that strongly,.jack the [zb] thing in …end of.
(The job not the wife btw )
It’s a [zb] industry and it certainly ain’t worth losing your wife, kids and family life over…get a job on days.
robroy:
However if your Mrs feels that strongly,.jack the [zb] thing in …end of.
(The job not the wife btw )
It’s a [zb] industry and it certainly ain’t worth losing your wife, kids and family life over…get a job on days.
This
Don’t throw it away for £25 a night.
To the OP…tell your wife you’ll be giving up around £4000 per annum give or take assuming 4-5 nights out every week and taking away 4 weeks holiday, see if she understands that, it’s probably more but i can’t be arsed working it out
shes Probably been reading all the tales on here of lovely little spots on industrial estates , quaint country pubs with evening watching the football whilst having a gammon tea & a few pints , and the poor girls evening is taken up with feeding , bathing , putting to bed the kids , who can blame her for being ■■■■■■ off
Maybe show her a few of my threads & she might not think she’s so hard done by !!
When you say tramping, i presume you mean 4, maybe 5 nights out a week ?
and as for all those questions from your missus, put the phone down because you are not at home, are you?
dozy:
shes Probably been reading all the tales on here of lovely little spots on industrial estates , quaint country pubs with evening watching the football whilst having a gammon tea & a few pints , and the poor girls evening is taken up with feeding , bathing , putting to bed the kids , who can blame her for being ■■■■■■ off
Maybe show her a few of my threads & she might not think she’s so hard done by !!
Who are these guys doze?
Pub meals?, football? quiet estates with facilities ? …■■■■ fantasy land I would reckon mate
It’s running ragged and parking in lay bys on trunk roads with mirrors pulled in, ■■■■■■■■ in a carrier, after dodgy Ginsters pies for me now since you’ve become my mentor.
It’s the way forward. #hardshiprules.
Sometime no difference fir family life do tramping or day job.Some drivers start about 1200 and finish about midnighy.He go to work when wife ready gone to work,kids gone to school.He back home when all sleep.
Night out money versus the financial consequences of Divorce? let alone the emotional effects. Second family struggling because of the financial and emotional commitment to the first one and vice versa. Don’t let it happen because of a job.
Giving up a job you may well enjoy versus the prospect of taking on one you don’t like? it won’t be forever, you WILL find something which suits both you and your family. Go through with your wife what so many spend those expenses upon and weed out what you don’t have to spend - expensive foreign holidays every year, flashy trainers, fashion brand clothes, pub, meals out, latest electronic rubbish etc. You don’t have to cut it out totally just moderate your voluntary expendidture and look at how much you put on credit.
Yes your home lifestyle and circumstances may be completely different so nothing meant personally; this is just some of what Martin Lewis would say.
I wouldn’t want to be tramping especially with young kids, I’ve done it in the past and generally loved it, but only if I were desperate now.
Get on the look out for a local own account job or specialist job, you can earn tramping wages or even more whilst not having to smash the hours.
Yes they are few and far between, but it’s surprising how many trucks there are locally that you never notice when you actually start looking for them.
mark1284:
She doesn’t complain when she’s spending it
Not like she really has anything else to do is it? Can’t spend time doing things with you and spending that money with you because you’re away in your truck all week and when you’re home you don’t want to go anywhere or you’re using that week’s one day off because you “ran in” Saturday finishing mid afternoon, doing your shopping, washing your work gear and gettting ready for Monday.
Too many trampers who see being a hero running around in their blinged up motors more important than their family. They’ll bang on about some pathetic excuse about money but that’s all it is, a pathetic excuse because if it was actually about money they’d be working somewhere else because I don’t know about you but there’s no way in hell I’d work for the hourly rate trampers get. You can earn plenty enough money to live a decent life on day work, especially when tramping tends to be on general and the pay rate is so poor and the only reason it’s a decent wage is because you’re working twice as many hours a week as the rest of the nation and also including the £100 night out money you get. And you can’t say it isn’t because if it wasn’t you’d not be including your night out money when telling people how much you earn to try to make it look half decent. To give you an idea of how crap tramping money is yes I know I’m in one of the few jobs that pays very well but if you disregard night out money I take home for just four 9-10hr days within £50 of what my lad does for being out all week banging in 60-70hrs a week and going on what take home many trampers have bragged about it would seem he’s about average.
But not to worry. Won’t be long if you continue if you ignore her and treat her as being selfish and being silly before you’re like a lot of the other trampers with someone else with your missus in the bed you paid for, watching the telly you paid for and living in the house you paid for with your kids calling them dad.
mark1284:
She doesn’t complain when she’s spending it
Not like she really has anything else to do is it? Can’t spend time doing things with you and spending that money with you because you’re away in your truck all week and when you’re home you don’t want to go anywhere or you’re using that week’s one day off because you “ran in” Saturday finishing mid afternoon, doing your shopping, washing your work gear and gettting ready for Monday.
Too many trampers who see being a hero running around in their blinged up motors more important than their family. They’ll bang on about some pathetic excuse about money but that’s all it is, a pathetic excuse because if it was actually about money they’d be working somewhere else because I don’t know about you but there’s no way in hell I’d work for the hourly rate trampers get. You can earn plenty enough money to live a decent life on day work, especially when tramping tends to be on general and the pay rate is so poor and the only reason it’s a decent wage is because you’re working twice as many hours a week as the rest of the nation and also including the £100 night out money you get. And you can’t say it isn’t because if it wasn’t you’d not be including your night out money when telling people how much you earn to try to make it look half decent. To give you an idea of how crap tramping money is yes I know I’m in one of the few jobs that pays well but if you disregard night out money I take home for just four 9-10hr days within £50 of what my lad does for being out all week banging in 60-70hrs a week and going on what take home many trampers have bragged about it would seem he’s about average.
But not to worry. Won’t be long if you continue if you ignore her and treat her as being selfish and being silly before you’re like a lot of the other trampers with someone else with your missus in the bed you paid for, watching the telly you paid for and living in the house you paid for with your kids calling them dad.
I think it has to be about money, why would anyone in there right mind choose to work a double week every week just to live in a truck, the other reasons might be that the driver is not into family life and some are lucky with their partners because it suits the partner as well
As for bling if that’s the case then they are married to the job
The fact being they are working for a unbelievably low wage for time spent, it’s just a way of life for some and everyone will have a different answer as to the question, why the hell would you do that amount of hours for so little money
stevieboy308:
I wouldn’t want to be tramping especially with young kids, I’ve done it in the past and generally loved it, but only if I were desperate now.
Get on the look out for a local own account job or specialist job, you can earn tramping wages or even more whilst not having to smash the hours.
Yes they are few and far between, but it’s surprising how many trucks there are locally that you never notice when you actually start looking for them.
^^^ this 110%
None of us can offer any specific advice for your personal circumstances Mark, whether a new job and getting home every night would re-kindle your relationship we simply don’t know, but is something you must ask yourself.
I know another young bloke in similar circs, he’s a decent stick and no matter what he does he’s bloody wrong, sadly its easy for those standing on the outside looking in to see what’s happening, it’s not so clear when you’re the one in living hell.
Stevieboy is quite right about looking for different work though, tramping isn’t where the money and good terms are.
The good thing is that at present you won’t be giving up a dead mans shoes job to try to salvage your marriage and family life, if you change jobs and it proves not to be the job after all then you can just find another tramping job if thats what you like doing.
PS, a tip from an old hand.
Make a diary, note the days you’re in trouble and the days you’re not (could apply a daily score), after a few months you might find a pattern emerging, there might be nothing you could do (as per the young chap i mentioned) because whatever you do at certain times you’ll be as wrong as a wrong un could be.
Conor:
But not to worry. Won’t be long if you continue if you ignore her and treat her as being selfish and being silly before you’re like a lot of the other trampers with someone else with your missus in the bed you paid for, watching the telly you paid for and living in the house you paid for with your kids calling them dad.
I’m glad you didn’t mention that someone else would be eating his steak dinner while he’s in a lay-by eating a manky orange
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