Hi
Have always wanted to be truck driver having felt that it may be the only job that would suit me. Never been able to settle down in any other job. Problem is I have a history of depression and anxiety. Have also suffered from Avoidant Personality Disorder for a long time which is a more extreme form of social phobia. I think I can trace my problems back to being a kid. I joined a martial arts class on my own (hoping to toughen myself up a bit) but had nobody to pair up with so the instructor pulled me out to the front of the class on my own. That has blighted my life ever since. Have never been able to hold a job down. Probably spent longer on benefits than I’ve worked. To make matters worse have recently had a lot of problems with noisy neighbours came real close to arming myself with shotgun and dealing with them, but never been a confrontational person and tend to shy away from it. But I can understand why people have done it.
I’ve always considered truck drivers to be the outgoing, extrovert, not easily fazed type of person, the total opposite of me. This gives me some concerns as to my suitability for the job.
I know from previous experience (albeit having only passed my car test shortly before) that multi drop work isn’t really for me. This was transit van 50+ parcel drops. Panicked a bit and didn’t go back following day.
Are there HGV jobs that are not as stressful as others? Had chance of a job years ago back in my twenties driving a huge engineering truck. Very high off ground rather than long. Problem was two people worked together, nights away. If it was on my own I would have taken it. Could have driven on car licence but they would have trained me on rigid. The other guy would have probably got fed up with me sitting in room reading and wanting to go out drinking, etc… [Not that i’m suggesting truck drivers drink too much ]
Ideally I would like the driving to be more incidental to the main job as that would have been. Although I would be happy to combine the driving with something else such as the extra technical skills for tanker work (probably very difficult to get) or hiab, but I imagine both of these would be multidrop as well.
Another problem is with the 35 hours cpc. I would not be able to sit in classroom with groups of people. Can this be done 1:1 or worse case scenario 2 or 3 people?
I am determined to do at least C training/test even if I never end up using it in a job. Got theory tests all booked up with hazard this Friday and other two in early August. Been at hospital most of this morning with a suspected DVT. Had one last year. Inconclusive so need another ultrasound next week. Got tender heel as well! Lasts a year apparently and then disappears as mysteriously as it came. Same leg so whether the two are connected, who knows. Maybe all the stress I’ve had hasn’t helped.
Anyway any advice would be appreciated (even negative if you want to steer [excuse the pun] me away). I don’t want to spend the next 20 odd years of my working life the way I’ve spent the last 20. Need to commit myself but just have these nagging doubts. Would be nice to make a living out of it if I could. I’m sure with a bit of experience it will be fine and hopefully find my niche somewhere. Not too bothered about the money just want a job i’ll enjoy. Especially important in the case of people with Avoidant PD else we just leave!
I know some people might think you need some help mate. I’ll tell you that writing this has been more therapeutic than any therapy I’ve ever had. Had an art therapist spend 30 minutes staring at me in silence. Maybe she was waiting for me to ask for some crayons. My personality is the way it is. No therapy is going to change that.
Thanks.
Should have started thread with Dear Deidre