Well somehow I’ve done it, after a month I’ve formally been offered a Job.
I’m chuffed I’ve succeeded, but I’m so worried about what lies ahead I been throwing up and my anxiety is through the roof.
I want too succeeded so much for my family, and I’m so proud of my partner as we did one month on dole, she got a job we came straight off and now I’ve achieved the impossible in my mind but I’m terrified as its a three month trial, and I’ve been away from the tools a long time.
I have too decide tonight, and as I type I’m shaking…i just want to be a decent lad and work but I have this horrible feeling of failure that I just wont be good enough or make the grade.
I apologise for sounding so weak, but we have had such a vile decade and I’m so sick of feeling like a bad dad for not being able to take the kids on holiday or buy the wife something nice that I’m contemplating not going through with it as I just don’t want to feel failure again, they deserve better…
Pathetic ain’t it.
Just wondered if any of you seasoned chaps have any advice as to how if possible I sort myself out…if at all?
Many thanks as always to you all, its greatly appreciated
First thing is : Dont Panic…just do your job as you would do, even if it means a yes sir…no sir. ( so long as its legal ) they might want to give you a 15 hour day with 9 off…but grin and bear it…until you have sussed the company out…then you can begin to shout a bit…dont allow them to take the ■■■■, tell them no but politely…Its always a bugger when your on a trial, but you may find thats its not all doom and gloom…so chill, look forward to your new job, and think that the pressure is off…good luck with it…better in work…than out.
We’ve all had worries after being sick or unemployed or being out of it for a bit.Just take it easy.After a few hours on the road you’ll be thinking ‘‘what was i worried about,i’m better than these guys when i’m asleep’’.
First off ( and I really mean this in a good but blunt way), get the attitude sorted [emoji6]
Your NOT a failure are you? You e a job your going to!
Go in as an equal, if unsure ASK! If you bow down now your doomed in this industry
That doesn’t mean be arrogant, polite, get to know other drivers I’m sure they’ll help. Get prepared for stick BUT don’t take it personally, it’s how it is!
Join in is what I say.
In meantime - I personally would still be looking for other jobs even if this one turns out great you’ve options till it’s def permanent and for you.
Be reliable and punctual, dont be afraid to ask if you’re unsure about anything. Take one day at a time. You seem to have a good attitude so I reckon you’ll be fine.
Just a BIG CLARIFY…I’m going into FITTING/MAINTENANCE not driving…BUT it would involve doing PCV and would allow me to get my HGVS, as financially its alot less strees on my misses, and wont take food from the nippers so thats a huge bonus, and one which is the string I want too achieve for many a reason, hgv is in the blood so I have to conquer it lol.
So SINCERE APOLOGIES for any confusion caused gents,…shows how frenched my head is
Try and calm down fella. Take it easy and don’t rush. Baby steps till you feel totally comfortable. Your never too old to learn so don’t be afraid too ask even if it is a simple question.
You need to build up your confidence it seems, it won’t happen over night just let it come too you. Your boss has faith in you, so should you.
If your worried about hours/drive time take information with you to read at times through the day. But don’t fret about it. Mistakes happen in that department. Just learn from them so they won’t happen again
Good luck.
Have you blagged it a bit and are worried you might be out of your depth or is it just you haven’t done it for a while and worried things have changed?
Own Account Driver:
Have you blagged it a bit and are worried you might be out of your depth or is it just you haven’t done it for a while and worried things have changed?
^ This.The latter would probably just be a case of ongoing training to latest requirements which the employer would know at the recruitment stage so nothing to worry about at all in that case.The former would be something else,with possible safety implications,in which case it would probably be best to inform all concerned from the DWP to the prospective employer now rather than later.
If you don’t mind me asking when was the last time you had a job, and if this job is something you are trained to do as you must be by reading your post what is the problem, all you can do is fail, and its better to fail than never get the chance to prove yourself, just think of the money and your family, and down the road it will get you where you want, what is the options, not giving your kids something they want and letting your wife support you with some dream of being a truck driver, when the door opens you take it and don’t talk about it before hand, saying you will take anything and then when something falls on your lap you lose your bottle, grow a pair of balls and be a man
Own Account Driver:
Have you blagged it a bit and are worried you might be out of your depth or is it just you haven’t done it for a while and worried things have changed?
^ This.The latter would probably just be a case of ongoing training to latest requirements which the employer would know at the recruitment stage so nothing to worry about at all in that case.The former would be something else,with possible safety implications,in which case it would probably be best to inform all concerned from the DWP to the prospective employer now rather than later.
Lol no, its more the fear as I haven’t lifted a spanner for anyone in 7yrs and i aimed for this type of role again.
I were completely honest, told them as far as I’m concerned I’m starting again to finish what I started if that makes sense, I want a place to call home now, I don’t want a job working for/with idiotic people, want stability, security, progression…
Before in other roles, I have been treated badly, and then just moved on…maybe I’m carrying a bitter taste for it all still, even though I want too achieve it so much.
The job actually is a bit less involved than I first thought,and they are offering training/progression, I think its just a fear of looking stupid for forgetting more than I learned I suppose and as above I’m worried I’m going back too old ground maybe?
I’m still applying for things, keeping my few options open in case but i just don’t know what to do as i really want to do well for my family, but am terrified at the thoughts of being scrap again.
nightline:
If you don’t mind me asking when was the last time you had a job, and if this job is something you are trained to do as you must be by reading your post what is the problem, all you can do is fail, and its better to fail than never get the chance to prove yourself, just think of the money and your family, and down the road it will get you where you want, what is the options, not giving your kids something they want and letting your wife support you with some dream of being a truck driver, when the door opens you take it and don’t talk about it before hand, saying you will take anything and then when something falls on your lap you lose your bottle, grow a pair of balls and be a man
Out of work 6weeks…seems like a lifetime though…but definitely i need to man up i know that,but that’s my worry, i fail its not just my neck…
Fully agree though, better to have loved and lost…so why not.
My misses says I’m over thinking it, i cant think why she thinks that ffs lol
Out of work 6weeks…seems like a lifetime though…but definitely i need to man up i know that,but that’s my worry, i fail its not just my neck…
Fully agree though, better to have loved and lost…so why not.
My misses says I’m over thinking it, i cant think why she thinks that ffs lol
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So if you fail how is that making it worse, if your not working now it has to be a opportunity to earn money, ok maybe you should sit at home and let your kids go without and the wife work, by the way this is a good wind up, so whose neck is it as well.
Benjie83:
Lol no, its more the fear as I haven’t lifted a spanner for anyone in 7yrs and i aimed for this type of role again.
I were completely honest, told them as far as I’m concerned I’m starting again to finish what I started if that makes sense, I want a place to call home now, I don’t want a job working for/with idiotic people, want stability, security, progression…
Before in other roles, I have been treated badly, and then just moved on…maybe I’m carrying a bitter taste for it all still, even though I want too achieve it so much.
The job actually is a bit less involved than I first thought,and they are offering training/progression, I think its just a fear of looking stupid for forgetting more than I learned I suppose and as above I’m worried I’m going back too old ground maybe?
I’m still applying for things, keeping my few options open in case but i just don’t know what to do as i really want to do well for my family, but am terrified at the thoughts of being scrap again.
Cheers again all, genuinely means alot to me
They are offering further ongoing training you’ve done the job before and you’ve told them you’ve been out of it for a long period.That’s as clear as it gets so stop worrying.There’s no way that the employer would risk putting you any thing that they think you won’t be able to handle.
nightline:
So if you fail how is that making it worse, if your not working now it has to be a opportunity to earn money, ok maybe you should sit at home and let your kids go without and the wife work, by the way this is a good wind up, so whose neck is it as well.
Young family’s necks I suppose, belts tight now but I have potentially got to put a large amount of money into this role for tooling, so I either use my little hgv fund and a cc, or its all on a cc and pray I make it through the first month so I can pay the card off in full should the worst happen…
3month trial but as you probs know, you can be a day in and they let you go…
Its happened to me once, promised earth and scrapped so I really don’t want too have too start hacking into their food/warmth/shelter any more than we are now because I took the risk and I/it fails and I’m left with a debt too clear, so to me its their necks on the block too, well maybe not under the guillotine but they will have too endure the shrapnel…and that as a dad is a major worry for me.
