I know it seems fashionable to moan and whinge about the transport industry, so apologies for bucking the trend.
This year has been very bad for me. Having gone back on distance work last year, I made the very hard decision to re-home my two dogs in March. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, but it simply wasn’t fair on them being stuck at home all week while I was away. At the start of May, my dear dad passed away after a long illness, and while we expected it, it was still very upsetting. Having looked after him constantly for the last few years, we hoped my mum would be able to enjoy her twilight years but very sadly, she passed away early yesterday morning. Having ignored all her considerable aches and pains to look after my dad, she was diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer a few weeks ago. Typically, she fought it to the end but it got the better of her after a traumatic weekend at home.
I’m the youngest of three with an elder sister and brother and at the moment we’re all quite numb with shock/emotion/anger etc, etc. However, one of the things that has kept me going throughout all this is the company I work for. Based in Hull, it’s a small, family-owned business with 15 wagons and were it not for their help, I honestly don’t know what I’d have done. I’ve only worked for them since June last year but the kindness and compassion that they’ve shown me has reduced me to tears time and time again. I’m struggling to deal with all this and I’m fairly lost for words but I just wanted to say that not all companies treat their drivers as “numbers”.
Sounds like you’ve been through it lately and hopefully things will get better for you, as for your company they sound the sort of company we’ll all like to work for.
It will be hard for a while…i lost my best friend … my mother ten yrs ago , it seems like yesterday sometimes , my sympathy to you and your family, try and think of the good times you had together , regards… shytalk.
I dread the day i loose my parents, i cant even begin to imagine what you are going through. I genuinely hope things get better for you over the next few days weeks months etc, But my thoughts really are with your self and your family at this very difficult time, and also a big hats off to your company for being so good it makes a massive difference, i know that from personal circumstances.
Sympathy for you and your family drive , things will get better
in time . Time is a great healer .
Thumbs up for the company you work for , they sound great.
The very fact you are writing on here at this time speaks volumes about the process you are going through. We ll greave in different ways and none is any more right than the other, just different.
Anyone who says “you will get over it in time” probobly hasn’t been through such loss but they mean well. In reality you won’t ‘get over it’, nether should you, it is right that we greave and right that we miss those who have left us. What you will do is learn to live with your loss. You will get less upset when you think about them and start remembering what they brought to your life with a smile on your face. Even then, every now and then something will thrust then into your thoughts and you feel everything you feel now all over again.
It is encouraging that you can speak so positively about your employer and it is a credit to them that they still hold family and feelings in such high regard.
my mother passed away in january and there’s not many days go by without me reaching for the phone to call her as i always did when i was sat waiting to tip or on a break, crazy really i bet she’s looking down on me giggling to herself thinking what a clown. hang in there bud
Sorry to hear your having a tough year, seems a lot of us are in the same boat.
Lost my dad in June, and mother in law last week, not good!
Like you, I’ve been treated well by the company I work for at mo and it has certainly made life a lot easier! Nice to know some decent firms out there still.
sorry you are having a bad year and a very tough time.
Not just the small co’s who look after their staff though.
I lost my son a few years ago, when he was diagnosed I told the boss that I was resigning to stay at home and look after him.
“No way” said the boss, “you’re on sick leave.”
That lasted for 5 months untill my son passed away.
I had another 4 weeks off getting my head together and went back to work, but within 12 months went down with depression and had another 6 months off.
All this time was at full pay including night allowance.
No problems with the company whatsoever and the manager was a real good guy to me.
Even after going back to work properley I dropped a couple of clangers but aside from a bit of a bollocking nothing was done, and at most companies either of the clangers would have resulted in the bullet.
this was one of the major players in the home shopping field.