My last post in this forum was about good news, well it’s now gone very pearshaped.
They moved Mum to Weston Park on friday, which is a specialist cancer hospital. The Professor treating her prepared me for the worst on Saturday, and today he has told me the worst outcome ever.
Basicly mum has Lymphona, but as it’s around her brain it is very agressive and fast acting. She is now too weak for any form of treatment and we have been told its basicly a matter of days. They will keep her as comfortable as possible and pain free, but my main aim is to keep her going until after the weekend so my brother can get back from New Zealand.
Thoughts and prayers are with you at this dreadful time. Hope your family get to UK in time and you are a support for each other. I am sure your mum is having some good care and be assured she will have some pain free days. I had a similar situation with my mum almost 4 years ago and she had a very peaceful passing which was thanks to her consultants care. God Bless You & Yours
Jon, my bro from NZ, made it back ok on Sunday and got to see mum, we both went in on Monday and thought that the end was near. She picked up on Tuesday, which was enough for her to be moved to Ashgate Hospice, which is nearer for us and alot more homely for her.
The current situation is that she is getting more and more tired, and the doctors have said that this is the start of the end. This will sound harsh to some of you, but the sooner the better, mainly for her as she’s not in any pain but she is a very independant person and at the moment the only thing she can do for herself is drink. But also for us as the waiting is worse than torture, everytime my mobile rings I jump 10 ft. One relation said not to wish it away as life is precious, but seeing mum thats not life, and theirs the lives of 11 close family on hold at the moment.
They have also explained more fully what has happened, which has answered alot of questions for us, basicly it’s Hodgkins Lymphoma, and it’s spread into her brain and through out her body. They could treat with chemo, but the likely result would be that the chemo would do for her as she is too weak.
Thanks for letting us know how your getting on Steve though I can’t hep thinking thats a terribly together post, please don’t forget yourself during your responsibilities. I know only too well that you have the support of a good woman but if you need anything and Paul and I could help then please get in touch, you know where we are.
my Mam was semi concious in the RVI Newcastle it was just after midnight I was sitting by her bedside when she murmered my name, first she’d spoke all night and all I said was
Mam just let go youv’e suffered enough
it was if she was asking permission
she was gone within the hour
Did I do right? some will disagree, but I think I did,
My she rest in peace, and I am sure she knew you were all there. I sat by my dad’s bed for 8 hours before he died and never sure if he knew I was there.God Bless you all and our thoughts are with you at this sad time. Liz and Terry
