Speaking as Mrs Trucken, I thought you might appreciate the wife’s point of view!
Mr Trucken has been tramping for 25 years or more, and regularly does four nights out a week. It’s never been a problem for us. If you’ve got a good relationship, with trust on both sides, there’s no reason why it should be a problem. I occasionally get a bit lonely…but you Truckers aren’t the only ones with a Forum, and I’ve made some very good (female) friends that keep me company both on-line and in real life. I’ve also got two (very) large dogs, so I’m not worried about being on my own.
I’d much rather know, at the beginning of the week, what his hours are likely to be, than suddenly getting a phone call, at 8.00pm, to say that he’s not coming home after all (and his dinner ends up in the dog!), or he is coming home, and I’ve got no food prepared.
We’ve been married 40 years in June, and I’m just happy knowing that Mr Trucken does a job he enjoys. His being away during the week makes the weekends quite special too!!
I think a lot of birds see staying away as a chance to get away from them and don’t like it. They believe their fella will be having the time if their lives shagging birds all over the place and their imagination causes a big lack of trust.
No one should be in a relationship where either party can refuse outright to take a job, we’re taking 4 nights a week on the whole hardly weeks or months at a time is it? And for those who let their mrs tell them they can’t do one night away I feel sorry for you
I’m in and out of tramping work as my missus gives me a hard time and says it’s a way of running away from problems and she always says that I leave her to struggle with 3 kids and still having to work so don’t know what to do about it as I’m more happy driving than working on building sites
If I could get rib of the wife I have I would be a happy man…jaysus I dream every night while alone in my cab that she would get lonely and run off with some other poor lad.
When I met the Mrs I was a squaddy (army driver), away a lot.
When we got married I was still a squaddy, for another 10 years. Away a lot.
When I took promotion to Mr, I had a year of training to be a welder.
Home all the time, we rarely stopped fighting.
Then I got back to driving, away a lot again. We more or less stopped fighting.
She wasn’t that keen when I was at Murfitts, I was doing 6 weeks away and a week home.
Away a bit too much of at a time consistantly, for her .
We’ve been married 33 years, I’d guess we’ve been togther for about half of that. It works for us .
Retirement, I’m anticipating, is going to be a hell
I’ve still got a good few years before then, hopefully I can come up with a plan
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