Thanks all ,weve got on better of late , not perfect but better ,think itsca case I’ve made a rod for my own back of spoiling her rotten , I’ve tried to be a bit sterner with her but I do slip back in my ways ,lent her my car w/ end as she didn’t have much fuel ,so filled it up and cleaned and polished it ( I know 
for her when she got back ,Mrs was off on holiday today ,so me and her blitzed her bedroom while she was at work ( ) .
She qualifies as a nurse sept ,told Mrs she will be 25 then so time to move out ,but only down the road so mum and dad can pop round and tidy up on a night 
,m&s and me said we won’t be doing that ,but you just know we will .
who said it gets easier as they get older 
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N.b if you