I didn’t suggest that you eat humble pie Kate. I was making a reference to the absent parents about what they should do so if they want to see their kids. Someone has to act like an adult when a relationship goes awry. Lawyers will ■■■■ you dry, and quite frankly, if your children are that important to you… hey… I’d polish boots if it meant that I could spend quality time with me kids! However, I wouldn’t scale cranes or throw bags of flour in Westminster. I’d communicate with the ex, and behave like an adult. If having contact with my children was so important… I would eat platefuls of humble pie! Just tell me this please… why■■? are these ex’s so cheesed off with their past partners that they would be so malovent? ■■? You said it yourself… as soon as you had custody, your ex became less hostile and you had power. (I know that this is an unpopular theme… sorry in advance)