All this was forced upon us when my wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer aged 37,both funerals are paid for and my wife has planned her own funeral right down to which coffin she wants and the paper booklet thingy given out to attendees of which she has completely designed herself front to back.
Not the way we expected our lives to pan out tbh,planning and thinking of funerals whilst we are both still relatively young and have a 10 year old son.
At the minute she is on a drugs trial with a clinic in London that has shown some good results for her over the last 3 months so hopefully one day she will no longer be seen as terminally ill but we both know that she is only ever one bad 4 weekly scan result away from her involvement in the trial being ended by the drugs company funding it.