Depression and lorry driving

4yorks:

Beetlejuice:

4yorks:
I can go there for 90 days visa free but can’t live nor work there. Plus I can’t get 90 days off work a year paid. I know it’s likely over but we were together for 2 years and I’ve felt this way since about November time

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You have to live for you and stop thinking about it ,It is hard believe me ,I am still mopeing around , three years after parting with my ex and youngest son .we were together ten years and did everything together .I see my Son 4 times a month ,Believe me thats hard to bare.
Take positives from your relationship and try to move forward without beating yourself up at work .your not concentrating and could cause an accident …

Believe me I’ve been told the exact same thing. I don’t want to sound too morbid but I really loved her. Like you we did everything together, we traveled most of the UK and Scotland. Went for meals, to the zoo and did literally everything together . it’s hard to adjust going from that and living together to working and living alone now. It’s like a huge part of me is missing and I can’t get over it.

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November is not long and frankly this time of year doesn’t help.

This might sound a bit daft, but it helped me when I went through a split. As you find your self overthinking, as you say easy to do on your own, try thinking - or saying out loud when you can, STOP. Say your thought is, ’ I miss Louise and I’ll never find someone like her again’, get into the habit of saying ’ I miss Louise and I’ll never STOP’. Keep trying and you’ll get to the stage of, ‘I miss STOP’. It sounds bonkers, but it does help. On the other hand, there’s nothing wrong with putting aside a small amount of time to have a whinge, it’s a type of grief, you are having to re-assess your future.

The other thing to try is that being in the present stuff. Trust me I’m the least New Age-y person you can imagine, but try and find some point in the day when you just can take a minute out and think, right at this very moment, I’m warm, the sky is blue, I’m healthy, there is nothing wrong with this moment.

I know it sounds like idiocy, but the mind works in mysterious ways and it may help.

And of course that old adage, time really does heal.