Been there, done that.
The only time she will appreciate all you do for her is when you stop doing it. But you will be sent on a guilt trip and blackmailed emotionally before things change.
My daughter used to do the night club dads taxi thing. When I told her she would have to make alternative arrangements to get home at 03:00, I got the response of “well it will be your fault if I get raped because you wouldn’t pick me up”
Wife refused to do her washing to the point that my daughter blamed her that she had nothing to wear to go to work. Wife handed her the washing machine manual and the look on my daughters face was priceless.
Cruel to be kind as they say