I took the warning signs too late

by **funnyfut** » Tue May 27, 2008 4:12 pm

I have just got the results at the hospital today and the news could not have been worse. All of you men out there know about prostate cancer and like me thought no not me and ignore the warnings. I did and today after having all the tests and a bone scan I was told that because I left it too late the cancer is in most of my bones. my legs, pelvis, two ribs and the back of my skull. The cancer is one of the most aggressive types and I have been given 18-24 months at best. This is down to me and me alone for ignoring the signs, peeing more than usual, uncomfortable when passing water and not emptying my bladder.

Now I am on various tablets and I am having an implant to slow the cancer cells down but there is no cure as it is too far gone.

Please all of you have the blood test it shows the levels of PSA mine was 49 normal is 4-5. It is curable if caught early enough but once it spreads outside the prostate then there is no cure. So don't be like me go get the test.

I have not been posting for a while but now I will be as I will be spending more and more time at home so I will be able to give my pennies worth so I look forward to posting again.

by **schrodingers cat** » Tue May 27, 2008 4:18 pm

I dont think we´ve ever crossed paths as I´m quite new here but please accept my sympathy for you and your family.

by **Denis F** » Tue May 27, 2008 4:33 pm

bloody hell Funnyfut, what is there anyone can say ?

my thoughts are with you...........................

by **mrs mix** » Tue May 27, 2008 4:38 pm

My thoughts are with you and your family

pam

by **renaultman** » Tue May 27, 2008 4:47 pm

Really sorry to hear that Funnyfut
My thoughts too, are with you

by **mpj81** » Tue May 27, 2008 5:01 pm

My thoughta and prayer`s are with you and your family. Thank you for showing just how important getting tested for this is.

by **dieseldave** » Tue May 27, 2008 5:04 pm

Hi funnyfut, As Denis F, but I'd add that I'll second your warning about taking the PSA test.

For those who don't like needles, the PSA test can be done at the same time as you need a blood test for almost any other reason, so there's nothing extra to endure. Depending on your age, most GPs don't normally ask for a PSA test when they fill in the blood-test request form, simply because prostate cancer isn't always uppermost in their minds.
Once you're aware of the need for a PSA test, it's simply a matter of the GP putting one extra tick in a box on the same form.

I've had my fair share of medical procedures and can vouch for what I've said above. :wink:

I have a slight problem with high blood pressure, which is treated by one tiny little tablet per day in a completely routine way. As a side-effect of that tablet might be that it causes a problem with kidney function, I need a blood test for that reason every so often. It really is no effort at all for my GP and I to keep an eye on my PSA count, since prostate cancer, (amongst some other things)is what killed my dad.

For anybody who thinks that it's cool to ignore obvious medical warning signs,
I'd advise a read of MY POST IN THE FAMILY FORUM

Whilst nowhere near as serious as yours funnyfut, my little story does illustrate the point you made about not ignoring things. :wink:

I'm guilty of it myself, so go on, have a laugh at my expense. :lol:

by **peteandbrenda** » Tue May 27, 2008 5:13 pm

i am new to this site funnyfut but my thoughts are with you and your family

by **mark h** » Tue May 27, 2008 5:24 pm

am new here aswell funnynut thats a shocker that, my thought's an sympathy go to u and ure family

by **Lee G** » Tue May 27, 2008 5:26 pm

Funnyfut,

sorry to hear your sad news and i hope you outlive what the doctor has told you.

if you ever need cheering up just pop on here, thats what i do, as there are normally quite a few cracking posts that will make you smile, even if they are not meant to.

my wishes are with you and your family

all the best

by **Ladytrucker679** » Tue May 27, 2008 6:47 pm

I really have no idea how to express my shock and sympathy at your terrible news. It is a testimony to your character that you use such a shocking tale to warn others and we are always here for what ever reason be it a laugh or a moan. You are more than welcome to pm me if you would like to talk in private.
Take care mate and stick around. :wink:

All the best
Lindsey and Paul (repton)

by **Mothertrucker** » Tue May 27, 2008 7:12 pm

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
thank you for being so kind as to share this warning with others on here.

by **Wheel Nut** » Tue May 27, 2008 8:59 pm

Nothing to add what wasnt already said.

Thoughts are with you.

by **stormnation** » Wed May 28, 2008 2:55 am

Some of the guys on here will not care for what i say next but that isn't my concern. I'm no billy graham but i do believe in the healing power of God! Prostrate cancer can be healed by God, no matter what doctors say

My prayers will definately be with you funnyfut.

by **biggusdickusgb** » Wed May 28, 2008 7:58 am

its took me ages to write my reply because i don't want to sound patronising. i'm truly sorry to hear of this mate but having just come through something similar all i can say to you is stay positive.
i put my recovery totally at the feet of the consultants treating me but all of my consultants, doctors and nurses say my recovery is down to my mental attitude to my illness.
they lose more people than they should because most people on being told they have cancer just give up.
i dont know you or your outlook on life but i've always lived mine with the que sera sera attitude, what will be, will be.
when i was told what i had, i just told them to go for it and cure me, they almost failed but i'm still here (read the goodbye for now thread)
whatever you do make sure you do it with a positive attitude, if you give up you'll be dead before the 18 months are up.
when you wake in the morning, tell the cancer you're going to beat it, don't let it rule your life.
i'm not saying it will go away but a guy i see at the clinic regularly was given 12 months to live in 2002, he's not in the best of health but he's still here.
good luck to you, the treatment isn't nice but the most powerful weapon you have now is in your head, please be positive.

by **Wheel Nut** » Wed May 28, 2008 9:34 am

biggusdickusgb wrote:its took me ages to write my reply because i don't want to sound patronising. i'm truly sorry to hear of this mate but having just come through something similar all i can say to you is stay positive.
i put my recovery totally at the feet of the consultants treating me but all of my consultants, doctors and nurses say my recovery is down to my mental attitude to my illness.
they lose more people than they should because most people on being told they have cancer just give up.
i dont know you or your outlook on life but i've always lived mine with the que sera sera attitude, what will be, will be.
when i was told what i had, i just told them to go for it and cure me, they almost failed but i'm still here (read the goodbye for now thread)
whatever you do make sure you do it with a positive attitude, if you give up you'll be dead before the 18 months are up.
when you wake in the morning, tell the cancer you're going to beat it, don't let it rule your life.
i'm not saying it will go away but a guy i see at the clinic regularly was given 12 months to live in 2002, he's not in the best of health but he's still here.
good luck to you, the treatment isn't nice but the most powerful weapon you have now is in your head, please be positive.

Hear Hear. Well Said

by **albion** » Wed May 28, 2008 3:12 pm

Good luck mate; there's a lot of people thinking of you. Try and chill as much as you can, eat well and stay positive. Good luck.

by **knight** » Wed May 28, 2008 6:24 pm

Never kow quite what to say to things like this, but Biggus is right.. My mother had cancer and refused to give in to it and lasted years longer than they gave her. The right attitude can help a lot.
Good luck for the future years

by **harry** » Wed May 28, 2008 6:50 pm

stormnation wrote:Some of the guys on here will not care for what i say next but that isn't my concern. I'm no billy graham but i do believe in the healing power of God! Prostrate cancer can be healed by God, no matter what doctors say My prayers will definately be with you funnyfut.

I am also shocked by this news .I lost a good friend last year to this disease .A couple of years ago he told me he'd got it but refused to have an op;I don't know if it was vanity or fear. He moved to France to live his lifelong dream & died there. In those snaps of the countryside I put on here recently I was in a pub & met a young driver from way back who who had also contracted the disease but he took quick action & he was at the pub with his wife & had fathered two boys who were now teenagers ( The eldest smoking like a trooper :roll:

)
But as the guy above said mental strength is whats going to count. Myself ,I would get hold of a camper & take a trip to Lourdes..you never know ?

by **animal** » Fri May 30, 2008 8:01 pm

Sorry to here this hope you stay posiyive and post about it on here ( like some have )

Not about much at he mom due to personal problems but stll pop in now and then

Good luck with it all

by **Lucy** » Sat May 31, 2008 11:09 am

That's crap mate. ((((HUGS))))

Hang in there. :cry:

by **cassius** » Sat May 31, 2008 1:54 pm

My thoughts are with you and your famliy funnyfut
As said by others stay positive mate

by **funnyfut** » Tue Jun 03, 2008 4:10 pm

Thanks for all the good wishes, I am not going to give in lightly so you have still to put up with me for a while longer.

I have another MRI scan on Friday so I have a day out at Chichester.

Don't forget take the test

by **montydog** » Tue Jun 03, 2008 7:36 pm

Like everybody my thoughts are with you. I dont know if you like reading, but please try to have a look at Lance Armstrongs book "It's not about the Bike" it's truly inspirational, he never gave in, regardless of diagnosis. This book changed my life!
Also for all men over 45 please get a test, (particularly if youve got a first relative who have had this, or female who's had breast cancer) caught early enough it's too easy to clear up, dont wait, 150 men in the Uk get diagnosed positive each day. Dont think cos you've had another type of blood test that that'll cover it, it's specific. Bully your Doctor, bully men in your family, if your Doctors not interested, go and pay £20 this is how much this costs. The test is called the P.S.A. test Protrate Specific Antigen test.
There is also a charity called The Graham Fulford Charitble trust, that travel the country doing free tests funded through donations, check them out inyour area.
Do it, I know what us blokes are like, sorry to bang on I'm not some old hippy, I just want you to stay around!

by **Quinny** » Mon Jun 09, 2008 9:01 pm

[zb] me FF,that's [zb] news.

However,I would echo what Biggus has said about a positive mental attitude.

Let me explain......................

When I had my accident 8 years ago, (Search my posts for details.) and had to learn to walk again,the one thing that kept me going,was the fact that one of my heroes,Sir Douglas Bader CBE,DSO and Bar,DFC and Bar,had to endure the same thing,the difference was,I still had my legs!!!!!!

What's this got to do with your illness I hear you say?

Well,I didn't give up,in the same way he didn't,and it got me back to almost full health,and the reason? A positive mental attitude.

My Mum got cancer about 5 years ago,and she was almost ready to give up,until one day when I went to see her,and gave her the biggest bollocking that I had ever dared give her,and she listened and changed her way of thinking,and guess what? She's still here,and now clear of what would have killed her.

Keep your chin up old boy,and yes there will be days when you feel like giving up,but when you look at all the good times,it will outweigh the bad times.

My best regards.

Ken.

Website · by **jessicas dad** » Wed Jul 02, 2008 11:07 am

bloody hell funnyfut im really sorry for you, i thought you hadnt been posting for a while i used to enjoy your sparing with sean.

good luck with if possible try and start the gym ( steadyly ) try and keep your strenght up if possible and fight this every step of the way.

look at what jane tomlinson acheived.

fight it never give in to it.

by **biggusdickusgb** » Wed Jul 02, 2008 5:49 pm

funnyfut wrote:Thanks for all the good wishes, I am not going to give in lightly so you have still to put up with me for a while longer.

I have another MRI scan on Friday so I have a day out at Chichester.

Don't forget take the test

how did you go on mate?

by **funnyfut** » Tue Jul 08, 2008 3:20 pm

The scan showed it has spread into more bone area I am having various forms of treatment but they are telling me to enjoy the time I have left. So in between the morphine and then the laxatives working I come on here to see what you are all up to.
I am enjoying life to the full and doing daft things like beach fishing not caught anything yet but its fun.
I'm not having chemo or anything as the cancer is literally in every bone so walking is a problem but manage short stints with a stick or I use the mobility scooter. I will keep fighting as I never give up but there are days when it seems like the end will not come soon enough.
Again thanks for all the good wishes and please everyone get the blood test done next time you are at the doctors, do not end up like me :shock: